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    The most important ceremony in African culture
    African weddings are a spritual and social family affair and involve the combining of two lives, two families, and even two communities!

    There is no great civilization that has ever existed that abstained from marriage as one of its core fundamentals of nation building.

    Marriage is sacred in Africa and beyond, because it solidifies relationship that enrich communities and nations by bring forth new life and new hope. African cultures celebrate the coming of the rains, the first harvest and the birth of a child. Marriage is that cultural process which ushers in new life. It is a cherished and most celebrated rite of passage since the dawn of African civilization. But marriage is not a human right: Human rights don’t need licenses or certificates. Marriage is instead a privilege afforded by communities, between man and woman for those who meet the criteria.

    Marriage is the only known incubator for the raising of balanced socially functional children. It is acivilized union of man and woman. The ideal set up for a child to be raised in to full functionality in the African context as a contributor to civilization. It is the institutionalization of complementary relationship between male and female energies, enshrining in the child sentiments and values from both sexes. This is the formula which is secured with marriage. Extended family systems sits in this equation by sharing responsibilities and enshrining balance. Even if a woman is unable to contribute by having her own biological children her role as a mother is expressed in a communal set up. And hence why the Pan-African proverb of it takes a village to raise a child. Parenting is communal, and the harmony of male and female energies are critical in enshrining balanced humans.

    In all the communities the bride plays a very special role and is treated with respect because she is a link between the unborn and the ancestors. A bride might eventually bear a very powerful child. Women are mothers of civilization which earns them a high status in society, thus protecting women and children is a biological human instinct.A good marriage compliments each other, and makes both parties better. Marriage is a journey through life which enhances and enriching entire communities. Lack of marriage is the death of a nation and a people. Communities that fail to recognize marriage become decadent and self-destructive with a range of social, economic and health issues (HIV, etc).

    There are many steps that take place before marriage starting at a very young age where training takes place in how to be a suitable partner.
    Girls will many times go to schools where women teach them what is involved in marriage, and in some ethnic groups even learn secret codes and languages so that they can communicate with other married women. In the Wolof people there is even a time where the elders of the village gather with the bride and give advice and gifts. Weddings can be very elaborate, involving feasting and dancing for days within a community, they can be very simple, or they can even be performed in huge marriage ceremonies involving many different couples.In the Diaspora, especially the UK, marriage is compounded by a the social culture of the "baby- mama" syndrome. Which according to some experts is a manifestation of immaturity and lack of moral responsibility. Marriage squeeze refers to the demographic imbalance in which the number of potential brides does not approximately equal the number of potential grooms. With African men being "deleted" from the marriage pool via: inter-racial choice, prisons, sexual-orientation, etc it is having profound consequences on African-Diaspora finding suitable partners, especially if they are educated and looking for men from that social class.

    We cannot even begin to discuss Pan-Africanism outside of the context of marriage because the smallest element of Pan-Africanism is the African family unit. An the legal and moral fabric of African family unity is the marriage. Accountability and stability within the family requires understanding, trust, tolerance, balance, and justice, all the ingredient for Pan-Africanism on a global level.
    Failure of the home speaks to the health of the broader people block. It is impossible to discuss social development and reconstruction of African people and not include the issue of marriage.The Diaspora community has the lowest marriage rates of any ethnic group, a direct legacy of theAfrican Holocaust. Because during the Maafa the first African institution that was destroyed was marriage. During Apartheid again the male-female relationship was placed under duress due to forced settlement and seasonal mine work which took the men far from their homestead. These isolated men then sought refuge in casual relationships with prostitutes ultimately leading to a health crisis. [FONT=Arial Unicode MS]What nation in history has achieved greatness that did not practise marriage? Marriage was central in Aksum, Kemet, Songhai, Zulu Kingdom, every known African civilization. India, China, Europe, Central America, Japan, all have strong traditions of marriage as backbones of nation building and peoplehood. Marriage has been a political stabilizer in the growth of every major empire, it was even used to broker unity between belligerents in Europe, African and Asia. Marriage between clans and nations has been a way of securing peace and trade. The entire history of political power in every nation was linked to marriage. Pan-Africanism and Marriage are interlinked because it is the most central and common African tradition, sacred to to all African people on the continent. It is therefore the building block of nationhood and our first form of unity.